Dear Single Guy,

I’m often accused of being picky, unrealistic, and setting standards that are way too high for you. However, I don’t think that’s true at all because I have faith in you. I totally believe that you can be the man God created you to be.

So let’s set the record straight....

But there is only one thing on that list: Is he madly in love with Jesus? 

Relentlessly pursuing Jesus will lead you to make good decisions about your future and about how you treat me (Matthew 6:33).

If you’re who Jesus wants you to be, then you’re who I want you to be.

This is totally biblical -- go read Ruth 3:11 and Ruth 3:18!

You need to know that I want to be pursued.  However, pursuit does not equal spending extravagant amounts of money on fancy date nights. I just want to be pursued with intentionality.

I want to know that you think about me, that you pay attention to what I say, and that you are taking the time to really get to know me. I want you to make me feel special and like I’m worth the time it took for you to plan a date.

I have a mind of my own and the Holy Spirit does live in me (John 16:13), so I can make decisions and find solutions on my own.

Instead of being my problem-solver, I just need you to care about how I feel and what I’m thinking.

Just taking the time to really listen lets me know you care about that.

I want my walk with Jesus to inspire you to be a godlier man rather than intimidate you (Hebrews 10:24; Proverbs 17:17).

Because I do feel things deeply, I keep a guard up with most guys in order to protect my heart. However, if you’re special and I’ve let you in, I do ask that you be careful with your words, only say what you really mean, and be honest. I want to know that I can trust what you say.

Bottom line is this: Pursue Jesus right now, so He can show you how and when to start pursuing me.

Until Then,
A Single Girl